Emotional Matters

Two Arrows

July 30th, 2022

An ancient Chinese proverb found often in Buddhist literature is called Two Arrows and can serve to reduce our suffering. The first “metaphorical” arrow is used to characterize a moment we feel discomfort, or pain. The Things We Cannot ChangePeople disappoint us. A relationship ends.…

Thinking, Feeling and Catharsis

April 3rd, 2017

What is the connection? What are the differences between thought and feeling? Is catharsis real? How can our clinical skills grow stronger by weaving these possibilities in the therapeutic setting? All of us have had the experience of being fully present with a client who’s…

What’s In Your Trunk?

November 17th, 2016

I returned home after taking my daughter to school, to find my wife sitting on the floor surrounded by photos of all shapes and color, most of them many years old and curling around the edges. How precious these rare paper pictures. She was emptying…

The Fire of Anger

May 7th, 2014

I’m driving back to my office from lunch today, drifting slowly through my sun-drenched neighborhood. I approach a giant flat bed truck partially blocking the roadway in the process of off-loading paver stones for a new pool deck and driveway. All over this tiny lakeside…

Two Arrows

Thinking, Feeling and Catharsis

What’s In Your Trunk?

The Fire of Anger

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