Relationships don’t have to suffer the cruelty of narcissistic destructive patterns before needing help. One doesn’t have to feel the pain of gaslighting to reach out. People who love each other can solve a lot of problems quickly. Our experience of relationship counseling is that it is usually brief, impactful and of enormous benefit. Getting the love we want can bring breakthrough good feelings and experiences of life at it’s fullest. Partnerships and families require great patience and discipline, the delay of gratification and regular maintenance. Without care and vigilance, we may drift from those we love in the hectic pace of daily living. Intimacy is a learned set of skills and for many, they are not easily found.